Well, I’m crying now. Some promises, some commitments -- they are too costly to keep. We can’t blame ourselves for what we didn’t know about that, when we were younger. I love the idea of going forward with this notion of a vow as signaling a willingness to carry out daily acts of devotion. And, I think paying close attention to the small acts of devotion we get to receive -- a held hand, a smoothed sheet -- is also a deep form of wisdom.
So so so good. Getting remarried was even scarier than getting divorced. But my guy also showed me I can let myself be taken care of. It’s the risks we take in life that make it sweet!
Another beautiful piece, Liz! I love this concept of devotion as daily efforts towards our vows, rather than letting them be “just words, along with a big party and a piece of paper.” It’s a beautiful reminder.
This piece set off so many memories for me Liz when I was discovering what tenderness had been missing from my imploded long term relationship. I spent a long time wondering how I could of accepted so little but like you say “I didn’t know such quiet tenderness was possible, and you can’t blame yourself for what you didn’t know.”
I didn’t know and finding out was initially painful but mostly delicious!
Well, I’m crying now. Some promises, some commitments -- they are too costly to keep. We can’t blame ourselves for what we didn’t know about that, when we were younger. I love the idea of going forward with this notion of a vow as signaling a willingness to carry out daily acts of devotion. And, I think paying close attention to the small acts of devotion we get to receive -- a held hand, a smoothed sheet -- is also a deep form of wisdom.
So so so good. Getting remarried was even scarier than getting divorced. But my guy also showed me I can let myself be taken care of. It’s the risks we take in life that make it sweet!
Another beautiful piece, Liz! I love this concept of devotion as daily efforts towards our vows, rather than letting them be “just words, along with a big party and a piece of paper.” It’s a beautiful reminder.
This piece set off so many memories for me Liz when I was discovering what tenderness had been missing from my imploded long term relationship. I spent a long time wondering how I could of accepted so little but like you say “I didn’t know such quiet tenderness was possible, and you can’t blame yourself for what you didn’t know.”
I didn’t know and finding out was initially painful but mostly delicious!