It’s so meaningful to hear what resonates, thanks for sharing. ❤️❤️ Those phrases struck me too, looking back. At the time I could barely picture what that would feel like, because I was in survival mode. But I knew in my bones that there had to be something better, and that knowing was enough to take the first step.
I'm there right now. Yesterday I had a meeting with my attorney to get the divorce started. I hate the term, a failed marriage. It just ended. Why continue with a marriage that was not good? I feel liberated. Failure? I think not. It would have been a failure to continue! Thanks for your awesome writing.
Ooof, I feel you, that first meeting is so hard! And yet, brutally hard things can still be the right thing to do. I totally agree with everything you’re saying. It takes a lot of courage to step into that knowledge that something needs to change, good for you. Sending you strength for the road ahead.
Quitting is so hard for me, too. I used to think quitting indicated a lack guts or sticktoitiveness, but you’ve helped me remember that quitting is sometimes an act of valor. For me it often comes down to figuring out why I’m so afraid to quit. Am I afraid if I quit I will be forsaking some other person, external pressure, or ideal? Or am I afraid if I quit, I will be forsaking myself? It’s not always easy to parse, but once I do, I know what to do--if it’s the former, I usually quit. If it’s the latter, I try sticking to it. Thanks for reminding me of how hard but how worthwhile it can be to give up and give in to yourself.
Oh wow, this really hits home for me. I love the distinction between bowing to external pressures vs forsaking yourself. That’s exactly it; I was staying in my marriage to conform to an external ideal of success, but forsaking myself. I’m going to use that going forward, thanks for that! ❤️
“I want to work towards a hopeful future instead of battling with a stubborn past.
I want to be well. I want to be free”
This brought me to tears. Thank you for showing me what it means to be brave enough to want more for yourself 💛💛
It’s so meaningful to hear what resonates, thanks for sharing. ❤️❤️ Those phrases struck me too, looking back. At the time I could barely picture what that would feel like, because I was in survival mode. But I knew in my bones that there had to be something better, and that knowing was enough to take the first step.
I'm there right now. Yesterday I had a meeting with my attorney to get the divorce started. I hate the term, a failed marriage. It just ended. Why continue with a marriage that was not good? I feel liberated. Failure? I think not. It would have been a failure to continue! Thanks for your awesome writing.
Ooof, I feel you, that first meeting is so hard! And yet, brutally hard things can still be the right thing to do. I totally agree with everything you’re saying. It takes a lot of courage to step into that knowledge that something needs to change, good for you. Sending you strength for the road ahead.
Quitting is so hard for me, too. I used to think quitting indicated a lack guts or sticktoitiveness, but you’ve helped me remember that quitting is sometimes an act of valor. For me it often comes down to figuring out why I’m so afraid to quit. Am I afraid if I quit I will be forsaking some other person, external pressure, or ideal? Or am I afraid if I quit, I will be forsaking myself? It’s not always easy to parse, but once I do, I know what to do--if it’s the former, I usually quit. If it’s the latter, I try sticking to it. Thanks for reminding me of how hard but how worthwhile it can be to give up and give in to yourself.
Oh wow, this really hits home for me. I love the distinction between bowing to external pressures vs forsaking yourself. That’s exactly it; I was staying in my marriage to conform to an external ideal of success, but forsaking myself. I’m going to use that going forward, thanks for that! ❤️