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“Would I have left sooner if failing felt safer? What if we focused less on successes and celebrated starting over as much as sticking with it? What if adult life, like gardening, is all just trial and error? Then we are always free to uproot what doesn’t work—even when the consequences are steep—and joyfully begin again.” This. This all day.

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I love that we can now nerd out about Garden Study together. 🌻

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This was very reassuring to read! Just last night, Will and I went to our local garden center and bought a bunch of plants to put in front of our house. It's a project I've been avoiding since we moved in three years ago because 1) I know NOTHING about plants or growing things, and 2) the risk of failing at it (for the whole street to see) has felt too great. But now I'm excited! It was fun to follow my whimsy and pick out things I liked. Most of them are perennials, but even if they die, we can always replant. I'm letting it be an experiment! 🌿

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Yes!! What fun to start from a blank slate! Margaret Roach is also a great resource for getting started (she has lovely writing and photos too). https://awaytogarden.com/

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Oh, thank you!

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I failed really big time recently, and it's been nourishing in some really beautiful ways... thank you for this, as always ❤️

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Love that you were able to find nourishment in the failure! Thank you, as always, for reading. ❤️

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